Good Intentions Part II

So today I did make dinner for a good friend and her family.  Her dad passed away yesterday.  I got the phone call from the Compassionate Service Leader around 8:30 and decided what I wanted to do.  I was thinking about it all day.  I went to the store around 1 and got started cooking about 2.  I was in the kitchen from 2-5 when I took the dinner over to them.  I made a TON of Baked Rigatoni-our family Baked Ziti recipe but our store never has Ziti.  I always over plan, over buy and over cook so I end up being able to feed lots more than what I need to.  I had to feed about 25 people for my friend and then my family but I ended up with enough to feed all of them, all of us, our neighbor family of 4 and a lady I visit teach and her husband.  Here's the thing-in all the time I spent thinking about what I needed to do, how much I needed to buyand then cooking and trying to decide who to take the extra to, she-who-must-not-be-named never once entered my mind UNTIL I am at the door of our neighbor's  house with pasta in hand pushing THEIR doorbell.  I don't get it.  I just don't know what I am supposed to do here.  When I told my husband he was thoughtful but then I told him this. I said that I had been thinking that I needed to take her dinner a few times but I had also been thinking what I was going to say when I did.  This is what I decided.  When she opens the door I will hand her the pan of food and say "I am trying really hard not to hate you so I brought you dinner.  Have a nice night."  After telling my husband that part he told me that maybe that was not the best thing to say and since that is what I wanted to say, maybe my good intentions would not be accepted.  Ok good point.  I guess when I have something nice to say then I will be prompted to take her dinner and actually be able to follow through on it.